Teens and Tech: Warning Signs with Online Dating

Dating apps are a common way to meet new people. However, it’s important to recognise that abusers can and do use these platforms to cause harm and exert control, just like they might IRL (in real life).

Here are a few warning signs you can use to better protect yourself while navigating these apps:

Too Much Pressure

The person rushes the relationship, pressures for in-person meetings or personal photos before you are ready, and may use guilt-tripping, love-bombing, or manipulation to make you feel obligated.

Manipulation or Agression

They react with anger, threats, or insults when you enforce a boundary, express disinterest, or say no. They may also try to isolate you from your friends, family, or support systems.

Boundary Pushing

They ignore your stated boundaries, such as pushing for explicit conversations or photos, revisiting topics you’ve asked to avoid, or disregarding your comfort levels entirely.

Financial or Emotional Manipulation

They ask for money, financial details, or other resources. This sometimes comes with fabricated stories or emotional manipulation to gain your sympathy or trust.

Communication Red Flags

Their information doesn’t match up, they avoid answering basic questions, or they frequently make excuses to avoid video calls. They may refuse to verify their identity or meet in a safe and public location.

Excessive or Demanding Requests

They demand access to your social media, location, or other private information and may exhibit obsessive or controlling tendencies, like constantly messaging you or acting jealous when you spend time with someone else.

Remember: you deserve to feel safe and respected online and offline. Trust your instincts, and don’t ignore red flags.